Friday, 25 May 2012

Can you get herpes from a toilet seat?

Can you catch herpes from a toilet seat?
It's alive!
The short answer to that would be NO.

You cannot get herpes from a toilet seat. Herpes is a sexually transmitted infection (STI) spread by skin-to-skin contact. In most cases, the virus enters your body through mucous membranes — the type of skin found in your mouth, genitals or anus. The virus can also enter your body through skin that has tiny scrapes or tears.

Herpes Simplex Virus 1 (HSV1) is known as oral herpes and Herpes Simplex Virus 2 (HSV2) is known as genital herpes because of the area of the body they effect. This is slightly misleading as someone with oral herpes (a.k.a. The Common Cold-sore) can pass on HSV1 to their partner's genitals through oral sex and someone with genital herpes can pass on HSV2 to their partner's mouth.

Both herpes 1 and 2 are not able to live on a non-living surface, such as a toilet seat. Therefore, unless the toilet seat you happen to be using is alive (which if it is then catching herpes from a toilet seat would be the least of your worries) then it is not possible to contract herpes from a toilet.

The virus that causes herpes is very delicate and it cannot live long or at all on such surfaces. It requires skin-to-skin contact or bodily fluid contact through sexual encounters in order to live and multiply.

The herpes virus dies quickly outside of the body making it virtually impossible to get the infection through contact with toilets used by an infected person.

Don't believe us? Then check with the thousands of members at and ask them if they did, but we bet they didn't.

Tuesday, 22 May 2012

Who's Got Her Peas? (We really mean Herpes)

The general statistics indicate that 1 in 4 people have herpes and 80% of them don't actually realize they do because their symptoms are so mild, if they get any at all.

Therefore that would imply that 1 in 4 celebrities have herpes too. Many names have popped up such as Jason Biggs from "American Pie" who Tweeted his fans about the progress of his developing herpes cold sore.

Here is our take on who's got herpes......oh we mean her peas. Enjoy!

Become More Than Just A Profile Using Social Networking.

Social Networking made easy with
Whether you join a dating site for people with herpes or one of the huge commercial dating sites, the end result may still be the same. There may be nobody in your area or the competition may be so huge, it's daunting. So, what do you do to get noticed or pass the time until that perfect one joins? This is where the social networking comes in.

Social networking is the key to your success. It's all in the name. You do what it says on the tin.

Be social and network.

Use networks like to interact with other members and having fun doing it. Stand out from the crowd without being a prat. It's obvious that a profile with a picture gets more attention than one without a photo right? So what do you do when lots of members have their photo attached to their profile because they feel safer on H-YPE than on most other herpes/HPV dating sites?

Take the next step on the H-YPE Social Network and allow your head to pop above the crowd. Make yourself even more visible to other members by:

  • popping into the chat room (best time for that is late evenings after about 9pm)
  • attending events, or better still, arrange one yourself
  • answer people's questions in the forum or start an interesting thread from scratch
  • join a group to meet others with similar interests and if there isn't one you like, then start a new one
  • write a blog about whatever you like and comment on other's blogs
  • add a video to your profile introducing yourself making sure to keep it short and sweet.
In doing these things you are being proactive. All these things will make you even more visible to the crowd because you are now standing out, and for the right reasons too. Remember, it's "Survival of the Fittest". No-one will do this for you. You have to do it yourself.

Don't be that person that says, "No-one ever emails me." Take control of your situation and go to them.

We have created the stage for you to shine. Use H-YPE as your tool to socialise and network

Look at Facebook for example. It's not a dating site but people do meet and date through that social network as they do on the major dating sites. You have friends, wall posts, photos, comments, etc, as you have on H-YPE, so make the most of these facilities.

In a perfect world, you would go online, click a profile and find that perfect person that lives around the corner from you. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case and having herpes and/or HPV doesn’t make it any easier. What social networking does is it opens your search radius and that of others. You may catch the eye of that perfect one, who came across your profile, and lives an only hour away. We know this happens and have the marriages to prove it!

So, don’t be shy, jump in and happy networking!

Friday, 18 May 2012

How To Sweeten Up Telling Someone You Have Herpes

How to sweeten up the the talk
Say it with a cake? If that works for you then great.

On a more serious note though, telling someone you love or are interested in that you have herpes can be very embarrassing. If you've ever had to tell someone you have herpes, how did you do it? Did it go well? What would you do differently if you could?

If you pick the right time and say it the right way, there's a good chance things will work out OK.

Think about how you want your partner to take the news. Do you want it to seem like a huge problem? Of course not, so don't present it that way. If you say, "I have some awful news for you," your partner will likely take it as awful news. Instead, be casual, direct, and unemotional.

If you say, "You're going to freak out when you hear this," or "Don't freak out, but...," you are setting your partner up to panic either way.

Simply say you have herpes, and ask if he or she knows what that means. Be prepared to present the facts.

Choose the most appropriate setting - a relaxing one. Just the two of you. Where there won't be any distractions.

The worst time to tell, other than after having sex, is during foreplay or when your clothes are already off. That would not only spoil the mood, but it could also annoy your partner, starting the conversation on the wrong foot.

It would be best to let the topic come up naturally in conversation. That way, it would seem less like a bombshell and more like any other development in your life. For example, you could say, "Just so you know, my doctor called me yesterday with some test results, and said I have the virus that causes genital herpes."

If you've never slept with the person before, it's not impolite to ask if he or she has any sexually transmitted diseases. You could start the conversation by being the first one to ask.

You might be surprised at the number of stories we've heard where immediately after telling someone they have herpes they hear the response, "I have herpes too."

It's possible that he or she might also have been looking for the appropriate moment to tell you they have herpes.

Remember that your partner might take the news badly no matter how well you deliver it. In that case, don't get defensive. Allow him or her some time to think it over in private, calm down, and come to terms with it. It may not be the first challenge you've faced together, and if the relationship is valuable enough to continue, it won't be the last.

If after reading this you still can't bring yourself to have "The Herpes Talk", then you can always try a dedicated herpes and HPV social site like where having the talk is not necessary.

Wednesday, 16 May 2012

Could Facebook tell you which of your friends has an STD?

As many a Facebook friend will tell you, revealing more about your private life than you would like is an everyday hazard of the web.

But a new concept for an app could see social network users sharing information far more sensitive than a drunken party snap.

Researchers are exploring whether websites such as Facebook could be used to sift through users' friend lists and flag up which of them may be carrying a sexually transmitted infection.

A team at the University of North Carolina's Center for Infectious Diseases hopes this approach can harness the power of increasingly ubiquitous social networks to prevent the spread of diseases such as HIV and chlamydia.

At an international health conference held last month, Dr Peter Leone - the professor leading the research - pointed out how a patient's circle of friends can be a vital clue in identifying who could be at risk of infection.

The theory is that, since social networks mirror our real-life friendship circles, services such as Facebook could be used to contact an entire at-risk group and tell them they may be in danger.

In a previous study Dr Leone tested the sexual partners of newly diagnosed HIV patients and found 20 per cent of them showed up HIV-positive.

His latest research looks at this finding in light of the idea that people who move in similar social circles often have sexual partners in common.

Dr Leone aims to develop a more precise approach to tracking the spread of STDs than simply focusing on at-risk demographics or limiting the search to those with whom the patient has had direct sexual contact.

Speaking to Salon, Dr Leone told of how a syphilis outbreak in North Carolina demonstrated how STDs can thrive within a social circle.

He said: 'When we looked at the networks we could connect many of the cases to sexual encounters, and when we asked who they hung out with, who they knew, we could connect 80 percent of the cases.'

The researchers offer a service whereby newly diagnosed HIV patients can provide a list of past sexual partners and anyone else who could have picked up the virus indirectly. The team then contacts these people, sometimes through Facebook, to let them know the patient is HIV-positive and that they should get themselves tested.

Describing the spread of sexual infections as a 'population-level effect', Dr Leone told Salon: 'It would be no different from someone who goes to a picnic and gets food poisoning. We’re concerned about everyone that was at that picnic.'

Another method being considered is based on an exisiting app for tracking the spread of flu. Developed by genetics professor James Fowler, of the University of California in San Diego, it trawls status updates for certain patterns and keywords, notifying users if their friends' activity indicates that they may be at a higher risk of falling ill.

The problem, of course, is that Facebook users are far less likely to broadcast news of their newly contracted STD than of a sore throat.

Nevertheless, Dr Fowler said social networks remain useful in the fight against STDs.

Not only do the likes of Facebook enable users to spread the message of safe sex, he said, they allow people to set examples to friends and destigmatise sexual health issues.

The above extract was taken from the Daily Mail.

One would hope that herpes or HPV would not be one of their targets but it is something to think about.

Thursday, 3 May 2012

UK Herpes Dating = H-YPE!

No, we are not changing H-YPE's name to UK Herpes Dating. It is simply another way to find us. The name UK Herpes Dating was created as another way to bring the newly diagnosed members of our society to H-YPE using the keywords that seem to be quite popular on search engines.

Of course it is up to you to choose which of the following you should use:

Rest assured that you will end up in the same wonderful place...H-YPE!

437737 is code for herpes -

Yes it is true.....437737 is code for herpes! If you were to type the word "HERPES" on your phone, the corresponding numbers would actually be 437737.

"So what good does this do for me?", I hear you ask.

Watch this video to find out more...

If herpes dating sites are not for you then try adding the number 437737 to your profile so that others can do a keyword search for you or why not try searching for others yourself? Or you could use this method alongside of herpes dating sites.

If the thought of exposing yourself by adding this number to your regular dating site profile scares you then try using a dedicated herpes dating site like
Click here to join H-YPE now.

Monday, 2 April 2012

H-YPE thinks it is Better 2 Know

H-YPE has teamed up with Better2Know to give you a discount off all your Sexual Health Tests including Herpes and HPV.  Better2Know is the UK's largest private provider of sexual health testing services, with over 80 clinics across the UK. It provides anonymous and confidential STD tests with quick appointments and fast results.

If you mention “H-YPE” when you book your test, and you will get a 5% discount.

Please call 0844 561 0844 or visit the website to find out more about their services or the closest clinic to you.

Sunday, 8 January 2012

How to find more people in your area with herpes

Print off some of these cards and drop them off at your local clinic. It is the ideal way to find other H-YPEsters in your immediate area.

You know it makes sense.

If your experience with H-YPE has been a positive one and you would like to tell others, we've made cards for you to print off in your choice of either colour or black & white.

Each document is A4 in size and contains 10 cards to each page. Once cut into 10 smaller pieces they should be the perfect size to carry round, inconspicuously of course......and just the right size for new H-YPEsters in your area to put in in their back pocket, purse, bag, wallet etc after seeing their health adviser.

Where can you put them?
  • Give some to your health adviser
  • Ask your clinic if you can leave some in their waiting room
  • Hand them out at H parties or gatherings
  • Maybe let others know where they can download the files themselves 

Thursday, 5 January 2012

Wishing you all a Happy 2012 with a review of 2011

As we say good-bye to 2011 and hello to 2012 we can look back on he past year and see how so many wonderful times were had by so many H-YPEsters.

There were numerous events on offer and many of the fantastic members of H-YPE took part in the organisation of these events for which we are very grateful.

Here is a quick summary of 2011.
  • 9 jan - Venice then skiing in Cortina D'Ampezzo
  • 22 Jan - Winter Walk Followed By Pub Lunch... Etc!
  • 29 Jan - Dorset Drinkies
  • 5 Feb -  Manchester Mega Day
  • 5 Mar -  Drink & Dance - London
  • 12 Mar -  Newcastle Part 3!
  • 18 Mar -  Glencoe Bunkhouse
  • 26 Mar -  HVA Meeting - Type 2 Antibody Test Session
  • 17 Apr -  Walk And Pub Lunch - New Forest
  • 29 Apr -  Bunkhouse Strikes Again!! but in Harlech
  • 7 May -  Lake Garda Adventure Trip
  • 21 May -  Newbie Pre-Party Meet - London
  • 21 May -  The London H-YPE Spring Into Summer Party
  • 29 May - London Drinks
  • 1 Jun -  Edinburgh Mid-Week Social
  • 3 Jun -  Racy Weekend (Car racing that is) - Oulton Park
  • 4 Jun - HVA Meeting - Expert Talks - Russell Square
  • 9 Jun -  Welsh Bunkhouse - Bwlchcoediog
  • 9 Jul - HVA Meeting - The Atrium, President Hotel
  • 15 Jul -  Camping Weekend - Silverdale
  • 30 Jul -  Night Out, South London - Clapham Common
  • 11 Aug -  Herts & Beds Local Drink
  • 12 Aug -  Camping/Beach Party - Scarborough
  • 13 Aug -  Fringe Day Out - Edinburgh
  • 19 Aug -  80s Rewind Festival
  • 27 Aug -  Last Minute Camping Trip - Hell's Mouth
  • 3 Sep -  Leeds Drinks
  • 16 Sep -  Seaside Camping Weekend - Swanage
  • 23 Sep -  The Big 18-30 Camping Event!
  • 24 Sep -  Night Out In Bristol
  • 30 Sep -  Bowling Night
  • 4 Oct -  Last Minute Latin Meetup!
  • 15 Oct -  Manky Night Out...Round 4 - Manchester
  • 22 Oct -  Walk And Dinner - Reading
  • 28 Oct -  Another Herts Drink
  • 4 Nov -  Bonfire Night Bunkbarn - Sedbergh
  • 11 Nov -  Drinks In Nottingham
  • 11 Nov -  Newcastle Drinks
  • 19 Nov -  Newbie Christmas Pre-Party Meet
  • 19 nov -  The H-YPE London Christmas Party
  • 4 Dec -  Christmas Jam On A Sunday Afternoon - High Wycombe
  • 9 Dec -  Herts & Beds Drink
  • 18 Dec -  Last Minute Leeds Drinks

Did we say a quick summary? Well with the H-YPE membership going from strength to strength there should be just as much, if not more to look forward to in 2012.

Not to forget the 3 engagements, 1 wedding, a couple of H-YPE babies, countless friendships formed and of course all the H-YPEsters that have found balance from a once turbulent relationship with herpes.

We would like to thank all the members of H-YPE for helping make our site such a wonderful place to visit.

If you are not already a member, then what are you waiting for? Click here to join H-YPE!

You'll be so glad you did.

Tuesday, 6 December 2011

The ONLY UK herpes dating site with a real community

When it comes to joining a herpes dating site there are plenty of sites to choose from. As it is with H-YPE, they should be free to join and look around and we actively encourage you to compare the different options out there.

We are of course the ONLY site that suggests this because we are confident that once you have compared H-YPE to the rest, you will see that we are the right site for your needs.

H-YPE has more members than any other site in the UK, with more photos, more blogs and more choice. Our events are amazing, thanks to the fantastic members of our wonderful community. No other site in the UK can offer you such a service.

We believe in value for money and offer an abundance of features for a small contribution. Other sites will attempt to lure you in with "herpes sales" but in the real world, you get what you pay for.

We have purposely kept our prices low so as not to exclude anyone based on salary, especially in these difficult times, though running a site like H-YPE does incur costs which must be covered. Our members understand and appreciate this, hence our thriving community.

Despite these costs, we truly believe that support and advice should be a free service which is why we have made the H-YPE forum open to all levels of membership....and yes that includes the free STANDARD membership too.

Our caring community of H-YPEsters are always on hand to offer those in need of support and advice the help they need.

In 2009, H-YPE was the first site to offer free FULL ACCESS membership to those on unemployment and incapacity benefits. Of course this has now been copied by others and we are glad to have shown them the way forward.

We are very proud to be the number one choice for herpes dating in the UK and only have the members of H-YPE to thank for that honour.

So in closing, let us say just one more time, don't take our word for it.....look around and compare the sites using the free registration before you make a choice and part with your hard earned cash.

Click here to join H-YPE now. You'll be so glad you did.

Thursday, 24 November 2011

The London 2011 H-YPE Christmas Party

The London 2011 H-YPE Christmas party which was also H-YPE's 5th birthday party, recently took place in a West End bar and what a fantastic night it was.

It was a packed bar, full of friendly H-YPEsters and everybody was made to feel welcome. It is amazing how such a vast array of people from so many walks of life can come together, all due to the one little sometHing we have in common.

Now that may sound like a fairytale but it is true.

The newbies were suitably and gently welcomed in through the wonderful newby pre-party, arranged and hosted by one of our newest advisors, and what an amazing job she did too.

We would estimate that around 160 H-YPEsters attended the main party afterwards, chatting, drinking and dancing the night away.

H-YPE is the biggest herpes social site in the UK with a real community of lovely people. It is this sense of community that makes H-YPE what it is today. Other sites have tried to emulate what we have created on our site without success.

Join today and you will soon see why we are the leading Herpes and HPV social site in the UK, but please don't take our word for it. You may of course think we are deceiving you so we actively encourage you to visit the other herpes sites and see for yourself. They may use the word community to describe their site but after a quick visit to them and then to us, you will soon see that the facts speak for themselves.

Wednesday, 23 November 2011

What a fantastic year it has been for H-YPE!

This year alone we have had 3 engagements and one marriage as a result of herpsters joining our wonderful site and becoming H-YPEsters, then meeting through the amazing network and social community of H-YPE!

These are just 4 more reasons why H-YPE is firmly in the Number #1 spot for herpes dating, advice, support, love, friendship and of course it's events.

So since we started 5 years ago, we have grown and grown, and may we continue to grow and bring people together.

That is a Grand Total of 7 marriages since we went online, not including the 3 engagements of course. We will add those next year.

If you have herpes or HPV then join H-YPE now. You'll be so glad you did!

Tuesday, 29 June 2010

Putting a smile on your face

Sometimes we may take the whole herpes thing a little too seriously. Well follow this link to see a less serious approach that may just put a smile on your face.


P.S. If you like it then please pass on the link to your friends.

Monday, 8 February 2010

Three Marriages so far and counting

We like to promote H-YPE as a community site where you can get the support you need and make a few friends along the way.

There is another side to H-YPE.....a dating side and we thought that a little reminder wouldn't hurt.

Many relationships have been born on H-YPE and through our many events. To date we have had 3 marriages as a direct result of meeting through H-YPE and we just wanted to shout that out to the world as we are ecstatic to have brought these 3 couples together.

The last couple wrote to us and said, "Well my partner and I got married last month, having met at your Valentine's party in London last year... we are incredibly happy and really can't believe that we found our perfect partners through a set of circumstances that may at first have seemed to be rather unfortunate. We feel amazingly lucky and had the most incredible sunny wedding day, celebrating with over 130 friends. Thank you very much to everyone at H-YPE for their part in introducing us and for organising so many of the kind of events we met each other at - we hope that many many more people find the kind of happiness we have."

Is that wonderful or what?

Might be worth you checking out H-YPE for yourself.

Wednesday, 3 February 2010

If you liked H-YPE before then you will love us now!

H-YPE is considered to be the number 1 social site in the UK dedicated to assisting those with herpes and HPV. Though our membership does span the wide world.

We are constantly striving to make the H-YPE experience truly wonderful and we are never happy to be second best. So to continue being the best herpes and HPV social and community dating website we've made some improvements.

For those that have used our site before, you're probably wondering if it ain't broke don't fix it.......but we couldn't help ourselves. As a result, H-YPE's latest upgrade brings with it many new features........too many to discuss here.

Come check out what we have done and see for yourself why we are the number 1 herpes and HPV social site in the UK.

It's free to register and become a standard member. With that membership you can access quite a few features including the forum and events.

If you then feel like upgrading you can do so for as little as £3.95 a month. It works out even cheaper if you pay for longer term membership.

Anyway, come say hello and see what a wonderful and friendly community we have on H-YPE.

Go on.....Take the Leap and join the H-YPE! You'll be so glad you did.

Monday, 21 September 2009

Membership prices

You may be thinking that our membership prices are too cheap considering all the features and services we offer for FULL ACCESS MEMBERSHIP.

At H-YPE, we actually think that the other herpes and HPV sites are too expensive. Why do they charge

You may be thinking that our membership prices are too cheap considering all the features and services we offer for FULL ACCESS MEMBERSHIP.

At H-YPE, we actually think that the other herpes and HPV sites are too expensive. Why do they charge so much? We honestly don't know. They may feel justified in charging astronomical amounts but we think they are simply taking advantage of your situation.

Our FULL ACCESS membership prices are as follows:

30 days - £3.95
90 days - £8.95
180 days - £15.95
365 days - £28.95

STANDARD membership is free but will give you limited access. We have kept the prices for FULL ACCESS low so that everyone can get the support they need based on neccessity and not their salary.

H-YPE constantly strives for excellence and our promise to you is that we will continue to make H-YPE the best, most secure and enjoyable site dedicated to herpes and HPV. The majority of your membership fee goes toward improving server response time, site development costs and staff administration in an effort to keep this promise.

To be or not to Herpe - sensitive login

No it's not H-YPE's version of a Shakespearean herpetic Hamlet but a more discerning way of logging in without the dreaded H words jumping out all over the page. This new login will prevent those unwanted eyes lurking in the shadows from discovering yo

No it's not H-YPE's version of a Shakespearean herpetic Hamlet but a more discerning way of logging in without the dreaded H words jumping out all over the page. This new login will prevent those unwanted eyes lurking in the shadows from discovering your secret.

In order for search engines like Google, Yahoo or MSN to find us more easily, we need to have certain keywords like herpes dating community or genital warts appear on our site. This is to attract more people for you to meet and to help those that need our support but to do that they must be able to find us.

Now that you have found us, some of you may feel paranoid about having herpes or HPV references in your computer. Hence the more minimal usage of such words throughout the rest of this site.

To help get you there we have the regular login or the new sensitive login. The sensitive login is makes no reference to anything "H" so if you are are all nervous about using a herpes or HPV dating site then we suggest you bookmark it when you are there.

Help the HVA solve their funding crisis at no extra cost to yourself

Why is their a crisis?

The Department of Health has said "No more money after March 2009". Now they have a £25,000 hole in their yearly budget. The 'herpes stigma' makes it hard for them to fundraise.

Why is their a crisis?

The Department of Health has said "No more money after March 2009". Now they have a £25,000 hole in their yearly budget. The 'herpes stigma' makes it hard for them to fundraise.

What can you do to help?

Do your shopping on-line through 'EasyFundraising' portal: 100s of shops are there. Choose Shingles Support Society (one of their names) as 'your charity'.

  • Go to the following URL
  • Register your details on that site - it's free
  • Choose Shingles Support Society as 'your charity'
  • Click on a company - and shop
  • Part of what you spend will go to the HVA - easy

You can choose from over 600 high street names such as AA, Amazon, Asda, Boots, Comet, Dell, Marks & Spencer, Next, Toys"R"Us, Whittards, Yahoo and Yves Rocher.....just to name a few.

You don't have to use the word "herpes" when you register. It doesn't cost you a penny - it's for the benefit of the HVA. Shop through easyfundraising every time!

Can one have a normal birth with herpes?

Herpes homebirth

According to the stats, one in Five Americans has genital herpes. At one point the females within that figure will conceive and be faced with the challenges of a natural birth with herpes. The risked posed to the newborn child of coming into contact with the mothers lesions if she is having an outbreak at the time of birth. Scary business. Naish and Roberts in their book Healthy Lifestyle Better pregnancy writes .... [One infection that may persist into pregnancy, regardless of your preconception care, is herpes, as the virus is impossible to eradicate. It is a particular problem if there are lesions present in the birth canal at the time of delivery. This can have severe repercussions for the health of the baby, including brain damage, blindness or death, and a caesarean section may be necessary.

It was happy to remain dormant if I played by the rules which were very simply. Eat well. In fact my herpes outbreaks have come to signal to me today that something is not right within my body and is an ally rather than the enemy. I knew that I had more than reasonable amount of control over my outbreaks. I knew what brought them on and could anticipate within eight hours of eating a culprit food the tell tale signs that it was going to happen, that I would have an outbreak. Armed with this knowledge I ate right. I supplemented my diet with nutitional supplement to ensure that spur of the moment cravings would not undermine my strategy because I know what it is like wanting to have a pizza, badly, being to tired to cook and tasting the pizza knowing it's only a phone call and fifteen minutes away. That craving can be doubly worse when pregnant. So I armed myself. Was I getting enough calcium? And my zinc stores were they adequate? Every pregnant woman especially one with herpes should read Naish and Roberts' Healthy Lifestyle Better Pregnancy and stick to the chapter on supplements. I would swear by it.

I will admit I was thrown off once during my pregnancy. Six nems fried in God knows what oil from the Chinese fast food on an afternoon when I had nothing in the fridge. Never again. Never. What if I had done that closer to my due date. I was brought quickly to my senses and since then the fridge or cupboard has never been bare and I've never had another outbreak during a pregnancy. God forbid. Those risks are real and if you're going to go for the natural birth your commitment must be firm and your will is never to waiver.

Milk was off the menu, any dairy product for that matter and glutin. So forget the pizza. Sunflower oil or anything fried in it. And stress. All reasonably within my control. There are alternative sources of calcium and glutin free cereals like amaranth and quinoa are nutritionally packed foods (just get yourself a mill and be creative). As for stress I got my boss to pack in my classes all in the morning and with half an hour lunch time my day ended at two pm. After a half an hours walk back home I was free to relax on the sofa and go to sleep. What stress?

Oh yes the one which comes when your insides contract and try to expel the baby. Well if I got to this date outbreak free and providing this labour thing didn't drag on for three days I would be home free. Because that's the amount of time my body needs to transform stress, glutin or lactose into a live outbreak.

So what's there to do? Find out what triggers your outbreak. Log it. Keep away from it. Find a substitute for it so that you don't miss out on the nutrition the culprit food would provide. Ensure that your nutritional needs are being met and take your supplements as back up. You wouldn't drive your car without insurance would you? Take them just in case. Take them to keep the cravings away for they don't undermine your efforts at staying away from foods which trigger your outbreaks.

And relax. If push does come to shove (no pun intended) and you need to have a caesarean make peace with that before the date. Do your best but be willing to allow for the unpredictable, well in our case the possibly predictable.

Mandatory reading: Healthy Lifestyle Better Pregnancy By Naish and Roberts (If I could get this book in France it should be easier in an English speaking country)

Check out the book A Martyr for Mothers - mothering at the other end of the continuum ( the first chapter is called My Homebirth My Hospital Birth. The book is written by a mother who has herpes - me (Christy Charles) © Christy Charles June 2007

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